Why does doing what is right hurt so much?
Years ago, my dad gifted me a fabulous and original quote that he kept in his office that says, “In my law practice and in my life, I have followed two basic ethics: does it appear to be improper, and would my Mother be upset if she knew I was doing it.”
Other than ending a sentence in a preposition, my siblings and I appreciate and do our best to honor and live this significant sentiment with great respect and authenticity. But for every cause, there is indeed effect and consequence.
- It isn’t always easy to take the road less traveled.
- Most folks will not risk short-term future for the big picture win, so to lose anything along the way is a risk.
- The high road and the “right” thing are subjective. Tolerance and definition vary.
- Taking the road less traveled doesn’t always mean the outcome works in your favor. Unknowing stakes can be high. And painful.
- Choosing what others won’t, can hurt.
- The difference between doing nothing at all and doing something with great risk is personal.
But “the time is always right to do what is right.” (MLK, Jr.)
All of us at this age have experiences where we have been faced with a decision that made us hero or villain, mentor or mentee, parent or friend. And candidly, sometimes, the choice for what is right, hurts.
We wonder was it right after all.
As a parent.
As a girlfriend, partner or spouse.
As a professional.
So we brace ourselves to face the music. And we trust intuition and a higher power to let us live our questions and way into the answer.
It isn’t easy, and missteps DO occur, but integrity is everything… so we begin again and again. Over and over again.
Cheers to being gentle with ourselves when the jump rope throws an unexpected double Dutch trick, continuing to trust unconditional love is out there, and knowing each day is a safe start to a new beginning.
I commit to jump forward with deep, full, three-part breaths often and always, if you will.