In our house, going to the therapist was like an annual dental checkup.
And as I reread that title, you might read two different ways. LOL! I meant it a positive. No joke, in our house, we look at a visit to the therapist like a check up. You break a leg, you visit the hospital. You get a cold, you see the doc. Why would your mind and soul not get the same important attention?
I’ve joked in previous posts about prepaying psychotherapy for my sweet daughter after all she has watched of my silliness and life changes, but it’s not a joke anymore. She is fully aware of why therapy is important and how it can nurture, enhance and lead us to find our authentic self…..even as the journey is ever-changing.
High achievers don’t like to fail. And for some, therapy feels like failure. But why? 1. It’s private and no one needs to know. 2. It’s healthy. Just imagine the peace in the world if we gave ourselves permission for daily reflection, quiet time or meditation and weekly therapy, like we do to watch Big Bang Theory (for goodness sakes, we enjoy reality tv, but we don’t look ourselves in the mirror?)? 3. If you get an unbiased source to just listen to your “stuff”, where is there downside?, and 4. You receive confirmation, kindness, call outs on your own behavior and likely learn to be a better friend, partner, and/or parent in the process.
But I was raised to know it’s healthy. And as such have been very transparent and open to the need in my life to ask for help and take action to receive. So cheers to a new account or spin-off angle on the 401K or CD option for psychotherapy use after 2025!
Don’t be afraid of looking in the mirror. It’s ok to see the real you, embrace, understand and seek support.
p.s. And you must find the right fit for you, and all therapists know that and want the same, so, if #1 or #2 isn’t right, keep looking. It’s a lot like a serious relationship, but it isn’t easy if you have to “break up”. Pick someone you will share all and not sell them on being someone you are not just to hear, you are fine. The good ones know better.