The wise Dr. Seuss said, “Be who you are…”
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. by Theodor Seuss Geisel.
My friend, (Fast) Eddie Pfeiffer, used to say “Ride On”, and when he passed away two years ago doing what he loved more than anything – being on his motorcycle – those words became prophetic for all who knew and loved him.
I wrote on his Facebook page that week in May of 2010: “We are blessed with unexpected friendship, gifts of learning and moments that change how we look at our own lives. In his sad passing this week, an old friend has reminded me to live in the moment, never compromise my spirit and embrace unconditionally. Eddie, I thank you. There is great respect in living your life on your own terms. You will be missed.”
How many of us live our life on our own terms? Really, truly, as WE choose? Is it fear of not conforming? Fear of being alone? Fear of judgment? Because our parents “said so” when little, or because the clothes, car, career must not be just right to others’ standards? And how as a parent do I help my sweet girl find her fit too, unconditionally and without judgment?
As I think about Eddie today, I can think of some other wonderful people in my life that live in this same admirable way, meaning on their own terms: Teresa E., Pam H., Sandy K., Bob N., Mike H., Kim B,, Ruth H., Brad A., Lisa D., and more….. I admire that some folks just get it. They say no, make change and move on when things don’t work for them. They move forward without excuse or apology.
We are here for a short time, and in that time, we have only our own path to ride. We can’t control or provide excuses for others’ behavior, we can only be our own healthiest “me”.
An old friend gave me a ring just months before this recent madness in my life hit its perfect storm. The inscription reads “Be Brave”. Whether prophetic or planned, it is a gift and a timely reminder of that which I need to work on – living life on my own terms.
Be Brave. Love Life. And of course….“Ride On”– E. Pfeiffer
I’ll try harder if you will.
(You can’t go around being what everyone wants you to be, living your life through other people’s rules, and expect to be happy and have inner peace. – Dr. Wayne Dyer)